Beige Gardens
A Riot Grrl’s Take on
Caregiving in the Age of Boomers
WELCOME
Rules of This Blog
None of this is meant to replace medical treatment, your own self care practices (clearly venting is one for me) or a potential Asset Map that should be made by corporate charities and government offices. Basically anyone who is pulling a salary is responsible for anything accomplished by grassroots communities.
AKA - not me. So if you’re here and you’re reading it’s because you’re looking for people who are sharing the same experiences as me.
This is a space to share resources. Including the much needed emotional releases we need as caregivers. This is not a space to discuss the politics and policies that have held us back. Here we just call it THE PATRIARCHY.
And… we just lost any cis men who thought this wasn’t going to be about holding the right people accountable, responsible, and working for the people.
And just like any advice from any one, listen at your own risk. I’m not a medical professional, a paralegal, I’m a Butcher Baker Nightmare Maker, take me with a grain of salt, and — remember complaints about people that are pulling a salary off my glorious misery have been fucking around for years.
Beige Gardens is when to come to FIND OUT.
Trigger Warning: Frank conversations about systemic bias, toxic family systems, and oppressive partisan attitudes towards what the human experience should be based on status. We mad out here, and we know who to blame. Please avoid if you have a tentative hold on nuance or need a place for white whine.
All my shit is whisky, straight up, maybe a cherry if I’m feeling cheeky. If your feeling are easy to hurt: FUCK OFF
This is an easier read.
Stories about being the one who lost the family bet:
So you have to take care of the demented?
At this point, we’re not waiting for the caregiving community to clear a path. There is no will to change. We must forge our own. But why listen to me? I’m just a storyteller.
This is my Happy Place
Stories about being the problem:
If you can be a Weed Nun, be a weed nun.
Canada’s favourite drug is a double edged sword, and essential to not going crazy. (Warning: this opinion includes talk about forging new neural pathways, breaking up with toxic family systems, and playing video games like a teenager)
This stock image is a lie, no one is this happy when someone else beats them at mario kart
Why Gen X HAS to be better at getting Old
Empowering the pathetic excuse for a middle age we turned into.
-‘Ok, Boomer’ isn’t just a punch line. It’s a way of life. This is a list of why we suck at taking care of people, but how Kathleen Hanna made us better at being taken care of.
-‘Where are the dudes?’ Kurt Cobain died for somebody’s sins, but not yours… cis-men are slowing down progress, and trust me, your sensitive good dad liberal husband is still enjoying his patriarchy.
-‘ADHD
“When culture is based on a dominator model, not only will it be violent, but it will frame all relationships as power struggles.”
Looking for something specific? Reach out and I’ll do my best.
I’m not paid to do this, nor am I supported by any of these services
I’m learning as I go, so if you have something to share to the community - please do!
Caregiving is specific to the caregiver and recipient, no one should ever tell you how it is …including me.